I just watched a Keeping up with the Kardashians episode. Not something I usually watch, but it was about Bruce’s transition and honestly…I was curious.
So, you might be wondering why I say Bruce can suck it. Is it because I don’t like transgender people? No. Is it because I don’t agree with his lifestyle? That isn’t for me to judge. The reason I say Bruce Jenner can suck it, is because he committed fraud against every woman that ever fell in love with him. They thought they were getting a husband, a partner….not a lady friend.
Kris Jenner is not a typical sympathizing figure. People run her down the rails for all sorts of things, but in this instance, she is the injured party. She thought she fell in love with a man, she thought that they were going to spend their lives together, grow old together. She was cheated out of 20 years of HER life. She has to mourn a marriage that she thought was going to last the rest of her life. She has to be “supportive” that her husband decided that he would rather wear her shoes and pee sitting down. That is a lot for any woman to accept. I would bet my last dollar that she feels betrayed on such a deep level that once all her “acceptance” wears off, she will be FURIOUS at having gave 20 years of her life to someone that was only biding their time until they could live the life they wanted.
There will be those that say, no one should have to live a lie. AGREED! No one should have to live a lie, and no one should have to be married to someone living a lie. Times are changing and people can come out now, in ways that are unprecedented. I get it. In 1980, society wasn’t as accepting. Transgender, homosexuality, lesbianism wasn’t talked about, or accepted. People felt that they had to hide. However, that doesn’t mean you get a free pass for all the people you hurt.
Bruce’s children will love him, as children do. Listening to them talk about how they kept his “secret” for over a decade after catching him dressed as a woman, how they feared that he was having an affair when they found lipstick, how they never told, because they wanted their family to stay intact. Do you think that was FAIR to any of them? The guilt and burden that CHILDREN carried for him to live his lie…and now, he comes out and expects them all the jump on board the transgender train. Khloe was angry, because she had, and was still being lied to. Guess what, I’d be fucking angry too. You lived a lie, and forced all of them to live it too.
Do I think Bruce has a right to live as a woman, and be happy? Of course I do. However, he needs to give heartfelt apologies…not for wanting to be who he feels he is, but for the lies, the secrets and the pain he’s caused. I don’t think there would ever be enough apologies to make up to Kris, or his other wives for what he did to them. A marriage is about trust, love, communication, respect. How about before marrying, you sit down with your spouse to be and tell them that you have gender identity issues. Lay it out on the table, as awkward and uncomfortable as it may be….then let them decide if they want to move on with you or without you. They should have been given that option.
Maybe you agree with me or maybe you don’t….but, you have to realizes that no one lives their life in a bubble. Your actions always affect others. So make sure that if you are gay, lesbian, transgender that you are honest with the people that love you. They truly want what’s best for you, and for you to be happy, but that caring is a two way street.